Majlis cukur rambut/Hair cutting ceremony

The "cukur rambut" ceremony has been a tradition that I practiced since the birth of my second child. It was explained to me that it is somehow the same as the baby full month. However, 7 years later, things have changed a lot. Nowadays ceremonies come which a cradle and some even has a mini dais. I did not do it for Arrian Deris because the hubster  doesn't want an elaborate event. We actually discussed it for the longest time and I tried my best to persuade him. My Hubster is a very practical person and he believes on doing things for its money value. He even commented how it is already our fourth and how I have enjoyed elaborate birthday parties and also baby ceremonies. I go for appearances whereas hubster is very practical and go for money value. Therefore I decided to just go with his ideas as he is the one forking out the money. However, I am blessed to be able to have a cradle and full setup during my nephew's ceremony. It looks superbly adorably fantastic. We engaged this lady from matynmishel. You may want to check out their Facebook and Instagram. They even have henna for the mother.

This was taken during my nephew ceremony.

As you can see from the picture, it was pretty. I even did favours for the nephew. Maybe I should change my vocation to be a baby event planner or even a pregnancy concierge. I would love to go shopping for pregnant mummies and also plan their full months. Major love.

Arrian's favour from www.babyinlove.com.sg

Irfan's ceremony favours. I love doing the booties.

For those who are not aware or unsure what exactly is this ceremony about, let me give you a brief account of what you need to do

Things/services that you need

• Venue - I chose to do it at home as I only invited around 70 people. Some may do it in a restaurant whereas some are even doing it at the void deck #malaystyle
• Food - you can either cater the food or chose to DIY - as for me, my mom and dad volunteered to help me to cook
• Ceremony favours - You can DIY like I did for my nephew or you can go to the net to google for the items, based on my research, most of it starts at 5 SGD onwards #mahalseiutkbabydamcmorgkahwin #mmgpunmcmorgkahwin - Arrian's favours came from this vendor from babyinlove  *check out their website at www.babyinlove.com.sg
• Marhaban - These guys are the ones offering blessings and reciting prayers for your baby. My mom has asked this YUSOF marhaban. His group has been the one doing the marhaban for my babies since day one.
• Lastly, money - I spend around 1.5k - 2k just on this ceremony. However seeing my friends and families coming together was priceless.

Basically, during the ceremony, the marhaban group will recite prayers which may last around 30 - 45 minutes. They will mention the baby name and what the parents wants for the baby e.g a healthy and pious child #somethinglikethat. After the prayers, the father will bring the baby and each member will cut a bit of baby's hair.

We went traditional with the tikar and all and minimal setup.

The father seems happier than Arrian

Arrian was well behaved 

"What is this pakcik doing to my hair"

Pakcik offered his blessings. I nearly cried.

The uncle was helping to hold the tray that holds his scissors and hair.

Atuk also was part of the action.

That was how the ceremony looks like. If you want to know more, you can simply google and you can see the different ways people does it especially in Malaysia, it is super elaborate. Some even include candy buffet which I wanted to DIY but I know that it will be tiring. So I opted for a simple cosy ceremony. There is a lack of photos of the food or the family is due to the fact that I was super exhausted (I slept at  5 am on the day of the ceremony) from the cooking and also entertaining guests that came. This ceremony also marked a significant hurdle that I overcame. I invited friends over to my house. I have never invited friends over to my house due to several reasons. One of the major reasons was I was afraid of being judged and also doesn't know how to entertain guests #yesiamkentalliketat.

Gifts from my friends from Seed Institute

I am glad that I took that step and overcame my psychological barrier. Some of my friends asked me what they are supposed to bring for the ceremony. My friends bought clothes for Arrian. It was such a nice gesture. However, you guys might just want to give green packet #melayutakbyktakcerewet. All this is based on my own experience. Some of you may think "islam doesn't require all this and all" but what's a little blessing for the little guy and a little gathering for the friends and family. It's really up to u, like i emphasise it's a tradition that I did for my babies. I feel there's no harm in doing it.

POST CEREMONY

We went to scissors paper stone@suntec city to shave his hair. He is officially a botak head.

After the ceremony, we are supposed to shave the hair and derma some money to the mosque #welltatswhatididtothebestofmyknowledge. So Arrian is now officially a botak and a cute one too #everymomthinkstheirchildisthecutest.

P.S: Another day during my maternity.