My birth story - Arrian Deris

This is the much awaited baby boy. I am sure you would want to know how "hilarious" my birth story is. 

As you have known I have been on bed rest for nearly a month due to the contractions. I was already having the pregnancy blah where being pregnant was just painful and I just need to get the baby out( maybe you can already see that I am a bit "blue"). I was so tired of the "when is he coming out" question. Sometimes people forget that I am the ones enduring the pain and wanted some peace and quiet. So it started on Sunday nite when hubster came back from work and I started having contractions every 10-15 minutes for an hour. I had endured the contractions since 5pm coz I didn't want to come back again. So when it gets more frequent, I decided to go in. Hubster was so excited as I had never requested to go till I am sure. We went in at around 10pm. We were ready and prepared. I was breathing in and out heavily as the contractions came. I waited an hour for the doctor to come and check me. The doctor checked and told me I was 3cm

dilated. He asked me whether I lived near and I told him I stayed in Jurong. He said I might not make it back in time. So he asked my gynae Prof Biswas. Prof Biswas knowing my history of fast delivery advised that I stayed for the night just in case I dilate even more. It was painful but my contractions were actually far apart. 

Well morning came and I wasn't experiencing anything at all. Prof came and checked. I was still only 3cm so I decided to go home. I saw hubster so disappointed. I think he was so frustrated with the waiting game that it was beginning to show. I was so upset but in order to avoid any unwanted fights, we just kept quiet and not talk about it.

We reached home and rest. At around 4pm, the contractions became more intense and longer, I was quite sure I was going to give birth that day. I woke the hubster up and told him this is it. We took a cab down. We went to the delivery suite and doctor came and checked at around 7pm.I was 5cm dilated. Hubster grew excited. Doctor gave me a dose of pethidine as I wanted that as the painkiller. My contractions were too far apart. By 9pm, I was drifting in and out of sleep in between the contractions. I was so tired of the whole process that I turned to the hubster who was holding my hand and asked for c sect. He was shocked as we have discussed the birth plan and c sect wasn't part of it. He was distressed and told the doctors. Nurse Chandran tried to console me and try to help me. A midwife came and checked that I was 7cm dilated and persuaded me to stay on since I had 3 normal births. The doctors came and asked me why I wanted a c sect because baby is not in distress and everything is alright. So they persuaded me to just take an epidural so that I will be comfortable. As they were preparing for the epidural, I had the strongest urge to push. I just took a deep breath and push. I told the nurse that baby is coming. She kept telling me not to push but I knew that if I don't push I will not have the strength later in. So I told her I need to push because baby is coming. Everyone went into frenzy and I have two push and baby was out. I heard him cry and everything seems okie. The doctors and nurses were surprised at how fast things went on. So at 933pm baby Arrian was born at 3145kg. When Prof came to detach the placenta, it was quite a process. He saw that I don't require any stitching and I am good to go. He asked me what I was thinking when I wanted a c sect. I said it must be the painkiller. I was delirious. So that's the birth story. It was funny how I wanted a calm and peaceful birth turned out to be a birth frenzy for the nurses and doctors. Up till now I couldn't figure out how I manage those two push without even batting an eyelid even hubster was surprised at how much strength I had. All I can say is all praise to Allah as I had silently prayed to him to give me the strength to go through all this.

As I am resting at home now, I am thankful that I am able to still go through normal vaginal birth despite everything. I looked at Arrian and felt relieved that everything is over. I thanked HIM for allowing me to feel all this and "lend" me this small being. I know people are skeptical about me and hubster capabilities as parents but I believe HE determines everything and we as his UMAT just execute the best that we can.Alhamdulilah.

To this man- thank you for holding my hand throughout the journey. Thank you for your encouragement throughout the birth process, you don't know how much that means to me. Thank you for the forehead kisses. It was definitely the most intimate moment that we have as a couple. Thank you for all the assurance that you gave me. And lastly thank you for giving me the best of things in life. We had our frustrations but I know you always wants the best for me.