My terrific three

These three are my pure happiness. I know that even when I am at my ugliest or my saddest they are always there. They readily forgive and forget. They mean the world to me and I will do anything just to make them happy. I come from a traditional family where they believe spare the rod and spoil the child but I don't use the rod that often in fact it's just a form of threat. Before anyone says anything about child abuse and whatsoever, I am aware of the child's charter as I am a childcare teacher. I do use my words and also whatever child strategy shared. I am fully aware of things that will affect a child emotionally. The thing is I mix both traditional and modern techniques. I usually will talk to them and tell them why I am upset and angry with them. I feel it is important for the children to know why you were angry. I believe if we don't tell them what actions that they do make us angry, they wouldn't know. I am going to tell you about each of them.

This little sweetie is my firstborn. She was born on the 6th March. She's 8 this year. Let me tell you about her. She has good vocabulary at the age of 2 years old. She is independent at a very young age. However, the hubster and me feels that she lacks in EQ as she tends to be "bossy" and demanding. I know rite, very harsh words but we believe that every child has a weakness and these are hers. She shares a great bond with her brother. She is academically strong. However, she sets very high standard for herself not us. She doesn't go to any enrichment programme. However, I do let her explore singing at leisure, bring her to places for her to explore and engage her in art and crafts. She wants to be a doctor when she grows up. I will continue helping her to achieve that dream but if along the way she decides otherwise. I will always be there to help them make their decision. Yes, hubster and me don't believe in forcing our ideas to them. We help them make decisions not make the decision for them.

This handsome boy is Adrian Irham. He was born on 27th July. He is 7 this year. This little boy kept his parents on their toes since the day he was born. He went through meningitis and also Kawasaki disease. He spend the first year of his life in the hospital. He survived and doctors called him a "war survivor". However, like any survivor they have scar as their medal. My boy has learning difficulty which we have yet to get diagnosed as his teachers believe he can achieve more as he is a very determined and hardworking boy. I was so relieved at the feedbacks that I get from his teachers during PTC this mid year. We knew he is trying hard but to get that type of assurance from a third party makes me say "alhamdulilah", lots of Syukur to the great One. One of his weakness is he loves to protect his sisters even if they are in the wrong. He have yet to know what's appropriate and what's not. But he enjoys school to the max, which is great.

This cutie pie is my youngest daughter. She was born on the 10th June. She is definitely the apple of the father's eye. The hubster and her shared a bond that none can question. The adoring look that she always give him is sickening at times... Hahaha. They are very close but she's a major sweetheart despite the constant tantrum that she always throw. But like my principal said children are smart enough to know which buttons to push. She is smart in that area. This girl of mine apart from her tantrums. She loves singing and anything girlish esp. Make up. She's exactly like my younger sister. She loves dolling up and her dad also love to indulge her. But I always emphasize that little girls should always be little girls. I allowed the make up just for play, not when we are going out. I just want my girls to be confident enough in their own skins to know that they don't need all those things to feel beautiful( even though a little help will be great)

Well, basically that's my children. I don't push them much academically. I only do it when I feel that they are being complacent or careless other than that I allow them to explore the world. I want them to enjoy their childhood like I did instead of being bogged down with assessments and also enrichment programme. I will give them what they need not what the society deem as a need. They don't need violin or piano lessons just to be cultured. There are other inexpensive alternatives which involve parent and child. It is the bonding that helps the child not the expensive enrichments or music lessons.